I think it’s safe to say that as little girls growing up, we did a lot of comparing ourselves with other girls. And it wasn’t always good. I was the girl taller and bigger than the others in my classes so seeing girls that were shorter than me, had smaller feet and could wear any kind of shoe made me feel like I wasn’t good enough. And even as I grew up, went to high school it was the same, I’d compare my hair to another girl and then here I am trying to do my hair the same to look like her.
In college, I collected fashion and beauty magazines and of course compare my looks, my shape to the models there, tried to do my makeup the same as the pictures and you know I was fast on my way to insanity! All this really comes from having low self-esteem passed down from my mother and her mother. I do think us women have this same tendency to feel inadequate around other women who we think are prettier, smarter, taller, shorter, talented, etc.
It’s okay to get inspiration from others, I do that with regards to arts and crafts, but what I learned as I got really older (LOL) is to be comfortable in my own skin. I had to learn to like myself just as I am and not to feel less or somehow not good enough next to another woman. I mean, so what if I can’t sing as high as she can or if I’m not really as good with numbers as she is. There are things about me that I do well, she wishes she could do as well. It’s a vicious cycle! It would really so cool if all of us ladies could learn to like ourselves and each other and not judge each other either. Many girls grow up being bullied over their weight, body shape, hair color, and it’s really sad.
The healthiest way to compare myself to another lady is only that she inspires me to be the best I can be. But, not by trying to be a copycat or replica of her. Jesus made us all with our own unique characteristics, talents and gifts and He means for us to embrace and use them. He wants us to see our worth as He does. Nobody was born with no purpose. It’s our choice how we use what He gives, but low self worth is certainly not what He wants us to struggle through life with. If we look hard enough, there’s something good we can say about ourselves that’s unique and makes us a one-of-a-kind! And… there’ll never be another person exactly like you to exist…EVER.